______________________________________________________________________________ I though about polyamory first and inability to resist the temptation. So I refactored my view of the relation so we can be free. while writing boundary she dropped that bomb. abusive manipulator. that could explain the straying as a mean of control. But i still think she found it hard to resist and is in fact poly. still the abusive behavior made be used to cover it up. but if it was solely for control, it mean there was not such thing as respect. I said i consider the respect when you threat people the way you think you deserve to be treated. I said if she respect me she will allow me everything she allowed herself. And i am not ready for monogamy a third time with the same offender..We finished the boundary page and she fell asleep with a hearth lighter. She understood and accepted. the day she choosed to spend time with justin instead of going back to me was the day she lost her power over me. and since she is obsessed in getting me back. She will have to lose pride and self esteam in order to get ______________________________________________________________________________ most web site make them look like monster but like any other sociopathic behavior it can be fixed you will just stand as the strong willed moderator of your wife narcissic abusive behavior you wont tolerate anymore triangulation (you though polyamory and still think it) you already dont let projection and gaslighting smear campaign and humiliation is far behind. Its another chance you give to the mother of your daughter before setting her on fire. ______________________________________________________________________________ narcissic abuse technique: idealisation - make you dream until you loose self pride agaisnt the dream smear campaign - make others agains you in order to control you, im your only friend triangulation - maintain a love triangle make you compete for attention so you dont put yourself out gaslight - you know humilation - yes making you miserable in public will isolate you projection - everything they did wrong is your fault, you will starting to apologise stupidly ______________________________________________________________________________ 19 oct 2016 she dropped that bomb, she is a mannipulative narcissic abuser and want to stop it I didnt realise at first, but she is right. Philippe was a triangulation objet to control me, she always had a love triangle. the gaslight was in order to let her do her shit in peace. She used powerfull dream technic to bring me to give her the familly she wanted. She did smear campaign agains me often. of course she is a dangerous person. but she never used child against me she never mannipulated child she never made a smear campaign agaisnt them also the smear campaign ended a while ago, (resurgeance with justin) because i was just not tolerating it at all. I was just no. Like when she humiliated me in public. it was hard but a said no. She is an affective dependant, then she is affraid that i'll leave her. She dropped that today because i think she understood that none of these technique she used to control me work anymore. I stand, i am firm, i know what i deserve and dont accept anymore abuse. And she is not getting away for free these time. Now she is the one who is affraid: i am ready to leave her i am ready to say no and stand for it i am ready to make her taste what she served me it's a revolution !!!